Someone hurt you, and you are the one left holding it. They moved on, or they never even noticed, and you are the one replaying the conversation at one in the morning. Matthew 5:44 tells you to pray for the people who mistreat you, and that instruction is not God taking their side.
It is God refusing to let their behavior become your prison. Praying for someone who hurt you does not mean pretending it never happened. It does not mean they were right, and it does not mean you owe them your trust again. It means you are taking the case out of your own hands and putting it in front of a Judge who saw the whole thing.
These 50 comforting prayer points for someone who hurt you come with Bible verses attached, so you are standing on the Word and not on your own strength. Some are for your heart. Some are for the person. Pray whichever ones you can manage today.
Bible Verses About Praying For Someone Who Hurt You
Matthew 5:44 · But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 · Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Romans 12:19 · Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: It is mine to avenge; I will repay, says the Lord.
Colossians 3:13 · Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Psalm 34:18 · The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Luke 6:28 · Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Prayer Points For The Hurt You Are Carrying
1. You saw it. Father, You saw what was done to me. I am not exaggerating it and I am not imagining it. Look at it with me tonight. Psalm 56:8
2. Close to the brokenhearted. Lord, my heart is broken over this. Come as close to me as You promised to come to the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18
3. Handing it over. Father, I have carried this quietly and it has become heavy. I am handing it to You instead of carrying it another year. 1 Peter 5:7
4. Stop the replay. Lord, take the replay out of my mind. I do not want to rehearse that conversation one more night. Philippians 4:8
5. Trust again. Father, heal the part of me that stopped trusting people after this. Do not let one person close me off from everyone. Psalm 147:3
6. Honest anger. Lord, I am angry and I will not pretend otherwise in Your presence. Take the anger before it turns into something worse. Ephesians 4:26
7. No root of bitterness. Father, do not let a root of bitterness grow in me. Pull it up while it is still small enough to pull. Hebrews 12:15
8. What You say about me. Lord, restore my confidence. What they said about me is not what You say about me. Isaiah 43:4
9. Ahead of my feelings. Father, I forgive with my mouth before my feelings have caught up. Let my heart follow what I have already said. Mark 11:25
10. Rest tonight. Lord, give me sleep tonight. Let my mind rest instead of building arguments I will never say out loud. Psalm 4:8
Prayer Points To Forgive The Person Who Hurt You
11. The decision. Father, I choose to forgive the person who hurt me today. I am not waiting until I feel like it. Colossians 3:13
12. What I received. Lord, You forgave me for more than this. Give me grace to extend what I have already been given. Ephesians 4:32
13. Releasing my right. Father, I release my right to get even. Vengeance belongs to You and I am taking my hands off it. Romans 12:19
14. Cancelling the debt. Lord, I cancel the debt I feel they owe me. I stop keeping the account open. Matthew 18:21-22
15. My own part. Father, where I have used this hurt as an excuse for my own behavior, forgive me too. Matthew 6:14-15
16. Again tomorrow. Lord, help me forgive again tomorrow when the memory comes back. Forgiveness is a habit and not a single decision. Luke 17:4
17. No appetite for their downfall. Father, take away my desire to see them fail. That desire is poisoning me and not them. Proverbs 24:17
18. Stop retelling it. Lord, help me stop telling this story to people who do not need to hear it. Proverbs 17:9
19. If there is a conversation. Father, if I need to speak to them directly, give me the words and the right moment. Matthew 18:15
20. Free either way. Lord, let forgiveness set me free even if the relationship is never restored. John 8:36
Prayer Points For The Person Who Hurt You
21. Because You asked. Father, I pray for them tonight. Bless them. I am saying it because You asked me to, not because it comes easily. Matthew 5:44
22. Let conviction reach them. Lord, open their eyes to what they did. Let conviction reach them where correction from me never could. John 16:8
23. Heal what is underneath. Father, if they hurt people because they are hurt, heal whatever is underneath it. Psalm 147:3
24. Changed, not punished. Lord, save them. I would rather see them changed than see them ruined. 1 Timothy 2:4
25. Break the pattern. Father, protect their children from repeating what was done to me. Deuteronomy 7:9
26. Honest friends. Lord, give them people who will tell them the truth to their face. Proverbs 27:6
27. A softer heart. Father, soften their heart. I cannot reach it but You can. Ezekiel 36:26
28. If reconciliation is possible. Lord, if reconciliation is on the table, prepare both of us for it properly. Romans 12:18
29. My name in their mouth. Father, if they are still speaking against me, take my name out of their mouth. Psalm 31:20
30. Peace for them too. Lord, let them find the peace they took from me. Numbers 6:24-26
Prayer Points To Let Go And Move On
31. No more waiting. Father, I am done waiting for an apology that may never come. Give me permission to move forward without it. Isaiah 43:18-19
32. Cut the attachment. Lord, cut every tie between me and this person that keeps me chained to the pain. 2 Corinthians 6:14
33. Close the chapter. Father, close this chapter properly. I do not want one foot in a season You have already ended. Ecclesiastes 3:1
34. Restore the years. Lord, take back the years this cost me. Restore what was eaten. Joel 2:25
35. Stop looking for them. Father, let me stop scanning every room and every feed for their name and their face. Philippians 3:13
36. Wisdom about access. Lord, give me wisdom about boundaries. Forgiving them does not mean handing them access to me again. Proverbs 4:23
37. Peace in the same room. Father, if they are still in my life, teach me how to be at peace in the same room as them. Romans 12:18
38. Something better. Lord, replace what I lost with something better than what I had before. Job 42:10
39. Not my whole story. Father, do not let this define my story. I am more than the worst thing that happened to me. Romans 8:37
40. Give me back my joy. Lord, let me laugh again without feeling guilty about it. Psalm 30:11
Prayer Points For Protection And A New Season
41. Cover me. Father, cover me from any further harm coming from that direction. Psalm 91:4
42. Every word in secret. Lord, every word spoken against me in secret, let it fall to the ground and come to nothing. Isaiah 54:17
43. Safe people. Father, surround me with people who are actually safe to be honest with. Proverbs 13:20
44. My reputation. Lord, restore my name where it was damaged, and let the truth come out in its own time. Psalm 37:6
45. Guarding my heart. Father, guard my heart as I begin letting new people in. Proverbs 4:23
46. Trust without naivety. Lord, teach me to trust again without being careless about who I trust. Matthew 10:16
47. Gentler, not harder. Father, use what happened to make me gentler with other people instead of harder. 2 Corinthians 1:4
48. A better season. Lord, let the next season of my life be visibly better than this one has been. Haggai 2:9
49. You kept me. Father, thank You for keeping me through this. I did not fall apart, and that was You and not me. Psalm 73:26
50. Not picking it back up. Lord, I hand this whole thing to You tonight, and I am not picking it back up tomorrow. Psalm 55:22
How To Pray These Prayer Points
Start with the section that matches where you actually are. If you are still raw, stay in the first ten and do not force yourself into praying blessing over the person tonight. That will come. Forcing it before your heart is ready usually produces resentment rather than freedom.
Say the person’s name out loud when you get to the second and third sections. Naming them is what separates real forgiveness from a vague wish to feel better. And pray these more than once. Most people find they have to forgive the same person several times before the memory loses its grip.
Read also: 50 Gentle Prayer Points For a Broken Friendship
Frequently Asked Questions
How to pray against someone who hurt you?
Scripture does not tell you to pray against the person. It tells you to pray for them and to leave judgment with God. What you can pray against is the harm itself: the words spoken about you, the damage to your name, the ongoing access they have to your peace. Romans 12:19 is the line to hold. You ask God to defend you, and you stop trying to settle the score yourself.
What is a good psalm to say when someone hurts you?
Psalm 55 is the one most people find, because David wrote it about betrayal by a close friend rather than by an enemy. Psalm 34:18 is shorter and steadier if you only have a minute. Psalm 37 is worth reading in full when you are tempted to retaliate, since the whole psalm is about not envying people who get away with wrong.
What is a good prayer to say to let go of someone who hurt me?
Pray something like this: Father, I release this person to You. I let go of the apology I was owed and the explanation I never got. Cut every attachment between us that keeps me tied to the pain, and give me back the years this took. Then say it again tomorrow. Letting go is rarely finished in one sitting.
What is a good prayer for someone who is hurting?
Keep it short and specific. Father, come close to them the way You promised to come close to the brokenhearted. Give them sleep tonight, give them one person who understands, and heal what they cannot explain. If you are praying for a friend, send it to them afterwards so they know someone stood with them.
Do I have to reconcile with someone I have forgiven?
No. Forgiveness is something you do on your own, before God, and it does not need the other person’s cooperation. Reconciliation needs two people and it needs repentance. Romans 12:18 says as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone, which quietly admits that sometimes it does not depend on you.
You are allowed to be free from this. Keep praying these until the name stops pulling at you, and let Scripture do the work your willpower cannot. For more on what God says about releasing an offense, read Bible verses about forgiving others who hurt you and what the Bible says about forgiveness. If resentment has already taken root, work through Bible verses about bitterness, and if this person still has a hold on your thoughts, pray prayers to break soul ties and a prayer for peace of mind.